why i am leaving facebook (or killing my smart phone)

so it has been awhile since i posted. things have been a little crazy, then they were a little less crazy...but either way i didn't seem to ever have time to write. traber and i have been contemplating the future. the next few years...the next ten years. asking the big questions. usually after a couple drinks ;)

what is important? what could we live without? what are our family values?

we have very little free time, it seems, and much of it is spent tending to various "necessities" in front of a screen. for example, bills have to be paid...and it looks like i have a few messages on facebook. or let's unwind and watch an episode of parenthood...3 episodes later, hey wha' happened? checking email and getting sucked into upworthy. i know you know what i am talking about.

we are thinking about selling the tv. i have decided to trade in my smart phone for the simple virgin mobile phone simone was using. (sadly, i now know the east side well enough that i no long require the help of google maps...a sad, sad day). and when i really thought about my desire to get rid of my droid the top reason was facebook. yes, it is nice to be able to stay in touch with all of you in one convenient package. yes, it is tempting to stalk various semi-strangers without anyone knowing about it. yes, it is something to do while waiting at red lights, sitting in the waiting rooms, waiting for food to show up. but i can think of better ways to stay in touch. and when i am waiting - waiting for anything - there are usually human beings around that i could be interacting with...sometimes even the humans i love the most in the world.

you never know how many days you have left on this planet. you never know how many more minutes you have left with any one person. i do not want to look back at any more times that involve telling my 3-year-old to "wait just a minute" while i catch up on a facebook friend's workout check-in. that is not the mom i want to be. so, i will be disabling my facebook account. most of you know how to get a hold of me outside the evil empire...but if you do not, feel free to reach out to a mutual friend for my phone number (been the same for almost 15 years) or my email address. i would love to talk to you!